bklyn- I haven't made it to a meeting yet, I'm promising myself to start going on a regular basis when I get back from FL. I did read a few of the Alanon related books, and I really like the one "Discovering Choices", it's very similar to DB principles. I already located the closet meeting and it happens to fall on one of my 'nights off' so it should be easy to start going... the only bad thing is that it's blocks away from OW's house- the temptation to do a drive by and slash her tires might become too great!!

I like your idea about shortening my trip- I honestly hadn't considered that. I do see how this would be a pleasant shock to him. Should I tell him before I leave, or while I'm away, tell him I've decided to come home early? Honestly, I really want to avoid being here for Valentines- too hard to deal with not honoring it with H and know that he's possibly 'honoring' it with OW... for some reason, being safe at my parent's house in another state, and having the ability to cry all day if I choose- seems like the best option for me right now.


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12