Well, it's been several years since I was on the DB boards. I successfully moved on and survived my first marriage's demise, and met my second wife about 1 year later. After dating for about 1.5 years, I broke up with her after feeling taken advantage of and unappreciated. We were apart for about 9 months during which time she had an intimate R with the guy across the street. She ended it with him despite calling him her "best friend" and then we started dating again, and married about 5 months later. During our 1.5 year marriage, her spending went crazy, she poured about $ 24k of my money into her home that she co-owned with her mother, and I ended up having to declare bankruptcy. The separation occured 6 months ago, and there have been brief moments of promise followed by rough times. She attended 2 MC sessions with me before quitting, while I attended 3 more before opting out as well (my thought was what is the use, as it takes two to tango). I've chased, I've bought her gifts, I've continued to provide $ support. I stumbled upon an active email line through my work (she must have logged onto my old work computer prior to our separation). Low and behold, she had multiple emails all from the prior two weeks back and forth with this former lover. I confronted her about it, she called me controlling, said I'd never been her best friend, and said that he was, and that she couldn't take it any more and wanted a divorce. Truthfully, I am beat. I feel exhausted, humiliated, and confused. I used to have such a high reverence for marriage, and tried so hard to do the right thing to save my first marriage, but I feel almost numb now.
