Thanks to all for all the posts. I am a bit vauge sometimes when I post. I understand what both Snodderly and Angel said. I am pretty sure my H is over the idea to cash in his IRA. And if he did, I have bank records of it. So I wouldn't lose it, i would just get more cash from the sale of the house.

And I think the fact that people are telling me that there are other fish in the sea is just them being caring and not wanting me to continue being hurt, if that is the path he takes. I am not running out to date. But yes, it is good to know that life does go on even if it doesn't go how we planned.

I called my H a little while ago, to clarify what he said last night. He was speaking to me in a kind way. He seemed clear-headed, and resolved in his decision to move on with me. He actually told me about some houses he saw in our old hometown that he was excited about.

I know he still needs some time to grieve. I'm still not sure we've heard the last out of OW. I'm sure some dreadful problem will come up and she will need rescued. I will cross that bridge when I come to it.

I talked to a lawyer on the phone before, and my H's reaction was very extreme. In his world if I got any papers drawn up, it would mean we were done. He lives in a black and white world.

Right now I plan to just hide and watch. For the next few days I will just observe and see if I need to protect myself more. I feel that by having gathered all the money records and having them in a safe place I have got what I need in case he jumps on the MLC Express Train.

Sleeper: Thanks for your story. I do keep thinking if I handle these things in a certain way that I will stand a better chance of coming through this as a couple.


Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!