Outside the Scope of This Report

[angel61]

"Contact attorney now! This man has all but left and he won't be long before he does. Protect yourself and your assets. "

I think that the way you said it almost means that yu can see him running out on Wendy. Even if you didnt say D out loud, it almost implies it.

It doesn't seem though that your H, Wendy, is the typewho will deviously try to cash out your assets without you knowing it. he seems to be really open, even discussing his feelings about OW with you.

If he does learn though that you have gone to an atorney, it might just make it seem that you are the one who is aggressive about leaving.

Maybe talking to him about it will work? When my H was in the fog, he wanted to kick out our renters, and live in our rental, so we could live separate lives. I sat with him and told him that we could not afford it, got out the calculator and discussed other options (like why don't we sell both houses? then go ahead with the D?) the magnitude of the work and effect on our finances really made him think twice, and somehow, logic still reigned. We were already miserable in the first place, why add to it by making ourselves financially in trouble? It was at that point that he also started thinking about how he first verbalized that it would be hard to live without me . I think that was the start of a loooong (9 months or so) road to him realizing that he could not throw away his and our lives for the poor OW