Outside the Scope of This Report

[angel61]

MLC = confusion.

So don't be surprised by the wishy washiness of your H. He does not know what he wants. Which at this point at least means that your M has a 50-50 chance. And judging from what he has been saying, I would say he is leaning a little more to you than away from you. I beg to disagree with Snodderly, cause I have been in this position before. I thought this was a divorce bustng site, I am seeing posters here rushing you to see an attorney and seemingly encouraging you to that state! I don't get it.

The OW is always defended by the MLC'er. Of course, it is never their fault. And when OW leaves them, all the more the OW becomes the hero. My H used to tell me that OW was part of the solution because she did not like to continue the EA with him because he was married. And of course, he was so depressed that OW rejected him, he had to have time to grieve. And pull himslef together. And I did give it to him, but I let him know that I was not going to wait forever.

So my question for you: Do YOU know what you want?

Truly, your H is broken right now. He is confused, his feelings and emotions are all over the place.

But I do see a glimmer of hope - you did say he hold you for hours. He has said he is stuck, but he knows he is staying. he does recognize that he feels happy when thinking of OW (of course, what do you expect? the OW's are there for a reason, Band aid....).

I always remember what I read in this site, which says that the fate of the marriage is really on the LBS. So are you going to rush out to get a lawyer, and set the ball rolling on the D? Or are you going to give this more thought and see how it goes? Unless you are wanting out so you can find a tall, sexy 6 footer before they are all snapped up, I would ask whats the rush?