Wife in "D - Freight Train Mode"

[2thepoint]

"The problem is, that while the wounds are still raw from having their chest ripped open.....the LBS usually reacts from an emotional place instead of a rational place.

The space and time allow the LBS to heal and learn how to react without the emotion overtaking them.

IF...

The by product of that is the WAS taking a look back at them, then that is clearly a bonus."

I agree here ^^^^.

In my sitch, my W was on the verge of a nervous break down due to the self inflicted stress of deciding to walk away. She was getting physically and emotionally sick from having to face me every day. And so I moved out. Both for her and for me.

And it is a good thing I did as I was growing more and more resentful as each day passed. I've been out now for 2 1/2 months and at least we can tolerate each other and even have some decent conversations. Nothing yet resembling any sort of R but I remain hopeful.

What I can say now though is that I am in a much better frame of mind now than I was 3 months ago. I have my bad days but they are much more tolerable.

One has to hope that the time away has been good for both me and my W in terms of healing from the pain of it all.