My story, need help before I mess everything up.

[MrBond]

"would she still be very angry with me?"

Only she knows the answer to that one.

"and would she still be in the 'affair fog'?"

'Fog' is a relative term. If she's still going out with the guy and hasn't given you any apologies or shown any remorse, then she doesn't want the R with you.

For the Friday thing...do you want to hang out with your kids? Then do so. Take them out and show them the time of their lives. Something different that your W would have objected to in the past.

Don't think of it as a strategy. Go out and have fun.