Looks like my blah day from yesterday found you.... sorry.

Try not to have expectations for MIL- just like we have to learn to do for our WAS. She may surprise you and say something that is comforting and supportive... then again, she may do what she always does. My point is, don't interact with her under the assumption that she isn't going to get involved. You can control how you greet her and talk with her, she is responsible for how she reacts to you. (I just read DR again last night, and apparently the section about 'have no expectations' is coming to my mind)

I think it's great that you are letting H have a choice about S saying good-bye to his mom.... let's H feel like he has an opinion. I've had to back off of things that H does with S- which normally I wouldn't agree with. As long as S is safe, it doesn't affect other plans, and it doesn't affect his school life- I let H do what he wants (for example: today, H gave S 4 quarters, so he could buy new pencils from the machine at school. S has been bugging me forever to buy some- I think he just likes the machine- and I've always said no because I have a TON of pencils at home that he can use. I don't know if H chose to do it so he could look like the better parent that me, but most likely H didn't see any reason NOT to give him some quarters- simple as that.)

Hope the blahs pass soon (((BF)))


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12