Husband Left...Part 4

[angel61]

By the way, buying him a jersey and asking him what he wants for food seems manipulatory to me. remember, you cannot control him, only yourself. And if you are the person who only a fool could leave, he will not be able to do so.

My H told me that one thing that he appreciated about me was that I was still there for him, after all he did. I never thought he would appreciate it, cause he did not seem to want my company, and ignored me a lot during the height of his EA.

I tried my best not to pursue, and to detach, but still would go with him whenever he initiated any family outing, and fully supported him in his endeavours.

I did give him space though when he needed it, and stayed away from R talk until he was ready. Actually, even now I stay away from it.

The boards was very helpful in a lot of ways to me. I credit our reconciliation to a lot that I learned here, but one should also be careful to weed out different kinds of advice from people. generally, I was aprtial to the advice of those who successfully busted the D and who remained M.

I think your sitch has the potential to improve and your M may be one of those that will be restored. But it will take a lot of sacrifice on your part.

Be very careful, and if you are not sure, then don't do or say anything. You have the gift of time. Use it wisely.