I think you should just simply tell him, whether in a joking way, or in a calm, but NOT ANGRY OR PISSED MANNER, that you were expecting the cake and slippers because it was his promise to you! Don't buy it, because doing so insults him. Maybe he has a bigger plan, maybe he is TESTING you to see if you have changed (if you were pissy in the past, he might be trying to see if you are more forgiving now). Or maybe he just plain doesn't realize what it takes for him to be a "changed " person.
I also think that accepting the superbowl invitation is OK, not accepting it seems to be like you are being vengeful, and that is another thing that MLC'ers or WAS are always looking out for. Especially when they are trying to come back, they look for all and any excuses to run away again. This includes signs of being revengful, unforgiving, and still being controlling about the sitch. It is at this stage that you have to show your patience, your unconditional love.
Change doesn't come right away. Just because your H said he realizes thing doesn't mean to say he will turn on a dime and be a good H all of a sudden.
I am in piecing now, and it gets better everyday. But my H and I have to deal with backlsides all the time. Whenever I talk t him, many times he still accuses me of doubting him, of attacking him. But the difference between now and then is when I point it out, he admits it now, and we are able to recover, ulike before where we would just go into this vicious cycle of attack and defense.
That is why I am asking you to try to point it out. Little by little, you will have to learn to tak to each other, point out what you need from each other, and work it out. Note I said little by little. Maybe you can work at one aspect at a time.
There is no such thing as "fair" if you want your M back.
As 25 says, do you want to be right, or do you want to be married?
By the way, start reading the threads on piecing, they will give you a sense of how difficult it is to rescue a relationship.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
