However, I wouldn't be me if I didn't give you something to chew on.
All of the work that you have done for yourself. That part doesn't end now. DBing is so much more than just a ploy to save your marriage. The lessons you have learned here over the months, will serve you in the future.
Once a DBer, always a DBer , if you have truly learned the concept. Keeping up things for you is a must. Remembering where you have been, and what you have been through is a must. There is a reason we face forward when we drive, and only have rear view mirrors. Because we must be very aware of our past, while keeping focus on our future.
Identifying your role, and your behaviors that led to this point have played a key part in her possibly wanting to take a second look in your direction.
Although you have been hoping for this to happen for months. The reality is, that you weren't ready yet.
Things happen when they are supposed to happen.
Now is the time to set in motion the things you have practiced. To actually BE the person you found through this , your actions should speak AS LOUD as your words, now that she is listening.
Piecing is hard work. Anytime there is a breach of trust , you will find struggles rebuilding those. And I don't necessarily mean with her. You will struggle with trusting yourself too.
When you truly forgive, it means to lay down that sword , never to pick it up again. Whether that happens to be with her, or more importantly.......yourself.
Let your faith guide you through this...
Faith in God Faith in her Faith in yourself Faith in the marriage
God gives us exactly the problems we need........to fix ourselves
You have come far young Jedi....the force is strong in you.
