Together Since We Were 15...Now Piecing

[Jenna333]

Here's my last thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2216037#Post2216037

My partner of almost 9 years left me on December 8th, 2011. Today marks 8 weeks since he left. As of yesterday we are exclusive and dating each other.

I was not expecting the whirlwind of emotions that I'm currently feeling. For 8 weeks I hoped this would happen. I am worried that he has not made any positive changes of his own, though he says he is starting to. We're both apprehensive about this, but we both want the same result: to be in a healthy, happy, strong, committed relationship with each other.

We will remain living apart. We're still filing child support. We are not back together, we're dating and hoping it will naturally progress into us finding that we don't want to live without each other and we'll get back together. We feel that the implications from stopping the filing of child support would cause too much pressure on us to be together, and we are taking this time to get to know each other again. He sent me this text yesterday:

"It's weird, like you're a whole new woman, and I have all the insider secrets because I know what you like :)"

It's tough trying to figure out boundaries while piecing. We both know we need space. He will not be coming over here every night. We will be having a date night once a week. I'm looking into counseling for us through the University he's attending.

I did tell him yesterday that I'm not comfortable with him continuing to text the coworker he was Interested in when he left me. He says they're just friends now and nothing happened, but it makes me uncomfortable. I don't find it to be appropriate. He never texted any women before he left me in December. Him cheating was one worry I didn't have to have. I had a major issue with controlling him. I just know that he would have continued to text her and see nothing wrong with it had I not said something I believe that we need to make our own choices, but my feelings on that matter are strong. It's bad enough to know he still works with her. They don't need to text Ugh. Is that wrong of me?

Any advice or insight would be much appreciated