WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

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WHG, you're doing an amazing job, you really are. You sound like an awesome dad, step-dad and husband. If your WAW doesn't wake up, she's an idiot. Whatever happens, you're going to be ok and make some woman very blessed.

About the Welbutrin, I was on it about 6 years ago to stop smoking (it worked, along with the patch) after being a 15 yr 1 pack a day smoker. I stayed on it for 6 months, until I realized it was making me depressed. At first I thought it was quitting smoking making me moody and irritable but after a few months, I knew I was depressed and thought the Welbutrin would help... thinking "My God if I'm this depressed, imagine how bad it would be without AD!". Then I quit and within a month I felt better than I had in 20 years, with no nicotine (which is a depressant) and no meds... and I haven't been depressed since. Stressed, upset, angry at the sitch yes - but not soul crushing depressed. Nicotine and AD affects everyone differently mentally. I know women who loved Wellbutrin, made them happy, lose weight, great sex drive... that was not my experience at all! I was not pleasant to be around and horribly unhappy in my R at the time (pre-H). The med just magnified that for me. BUT I should not have stopped taking them on my own. I got lucky, I could've gotten more depressed or bottomed out.

Can you suggest at all to your W to see a therapist before she quits? Or at least talk to her GP? Now is a horrible time for her to play around with meds on her own.