My ex was 3 days away from taking all the equity out of the house as well as cashing in an IRA. I decided to file for divorce at that time which froze all the assets so he could not use the money. Your ML'er is very irrational and just functioning off pure emotions. Logic does not exist for him at this time. You have to protect yourself until he returns to the planet earth. I have never regretted doing what I had to do to save myself financially. If I would not have, I would be living on a park bench.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11