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[AntoniaB]

I can't say that I have had the same experience as discussed above as far as options for men post-divorce. I have met a lot of men and been asked out by some, but they are all pretty pitiful creatures--either significantly older, out of shape, unattractive men looking to be my sugar daddy, or younger and very embittered post-divorce men who have not done any work like so many on this board have done to deal with their anger, and they seem to be looking for a notch on the belt. I even did the whole eharmony thing, and with that, I encountered tons of men who either have never dated or been in relationships at all, or who are divorced with kids and in a situation where they need a woman to quit her job and move to them because they are co-parenting. I guess what I'm saying is that I've seen the opposite--no one who seems to match my "stage" in life as far as career or outlook on life.

So just be aware that there are no hard and fast rules for what you find out there. I've found that the men who are "matches" for me in lifestyle/values/career are all happily married, and I wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole!!

I do think as far as assets are concerned, you can check into this for your state, but you might want to have a lawyer draw up a separation agreement that covers assets/accounts/etc. The separation agreeement I had done pre-divorce said nothing about divorce at all. It just was a legal separation and equalization of assets. It did say in the event of divorce, certain things would be finalized...but in general the point was to protect me should he decide to go run up a cc bill or drain an acct. Well, after he signed it, he couldn't without legal ramifications (and he didn't). My lawyer said many times that people would do a sep. agreement and later if they reconciled have it declared null and void.

So I'd at least do that if I were you--it cost me about 450.00 to have it done. Worth every penny.