Hey Tested,
Just wanted to let you know, the best way through is just to let that wave of emotion hit, and ride it out. It's so hard when the kids are gone during a time like this. I found it was my kids that helped me through this the most, just because I know they love me. It's can be pretty lonely when their gone.

For however long it takes, let it hit and ride it out. You're right. Sit and work through it. I know for me I'd have waves that would hit me and I'd be in a funk for hours, or days at a time. I was grieving so. I still have moments, but feel Im finally at acceptance.

It was living through my darkest and lonliest hours that I received the best gift. I learned that I would be ok being alone.

Im sorry you're having a bad night, because I've been there and done that for months and months. I know how bad it hurts.


M=42 XH=44
M=18 T=21
D14 D11
Divorced 4/2012
XH marries OW 6/2014.