So...how long do you keep the door cracked and the way home paved and smoothed. When do you just accept facts?
What a good question, one that I asked myself and this board on numerous occasions throughout this bloody mess. The answer that was given was quite simple and sometimes frustrating to read. "Only you know" I suppose that is the short of it.
I will share with you something 25 posted to me when I asked the same question a few short weeks after my D was final
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See, I'm thinking your actions are the same regardless of what she thinks/wants/plans,
Simple but true.
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Door is open, the way is paved and smooth, but I doubt she will ever even notice. How sad.
You are separated by distance and the only changes she will see are those she hears on the phone or what mutual friends report back to her. The distance is both good and bad. It allows you room to heal and not have the occasional run ins at the local grocery stores and such but it leaves an empty void that you struggle to fill.
It is very cliché but time is the great physician.
You can't control how you feel about it anymore than you can control the weather but you can control what you do about it.
Stay in bed and mourn or chose to get up and face the day.
