I have been following along with the thread as I often do and feel that I must comment.
The MLC forum, is my home here. It is a place where I have laughed, cried, screamed, played, learned, and healed.
It is also, in some ways, a place that I wish I had never found.
I came to the DB site almost two years before my register date. I read in Newcomers, believing that my X was a WAH.
MLC was suggested to me by more than one person who knew me and X personally. I read MLC for Dummies. I thought "bingo" that is it. Then I read more about MLC. And I thought "crapp, I want him to just be a WAH".
Well, my x truly is a MLCer. I fought the idea for a very long time. Because MLC is NOT an easy road. There is no timeline, it isn't 3-5 or 5-7 years, one of the "experts" on MLC actually says his lasted about 20.
My X, is on about year 14 or so of his...
Are some of our S in MLC? Yes.
Is there a set age to determine if it's possible? No. I have always hated the term MLC. A life crisis is a life crisis and can happen at any time.
While a WAS and MLCer do exhibit SOME similarities, there are significant differences. One being the confusion exhibited by the MLCer. Others are covered in the MLC resources.
I want to caution you, if you are considering that your S is in MLC, don't just read MLC for Dummies and make the leap, go read some of the threads in the MLC archives from their beginnings.
Fisherman FrankD MHL Sofaraway FaithIsBelieving Spirit (had a MLC) AmyC (she had her own MLC)...I would link these, but I'm too lazy...Cadet?
Learn what MLC truly looks like from people who have lived it. Before you make any decisions about your situations based on something that sounds familiar...
If you want to know more, start a thread in MLC and ask questions. There are plenty of people there who are willing and able to answer...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
