Thank you, NHM. She didn't say why she was upset. It could be because she saw the promotion as a way to get a bigger share of through the D, it may be because it would have "solved" a lot of our financial problems, and/or it may be because she thought it was not necessary to say anything to the boss and that I had sabotagued the job by saying something. Not knowing her motivation is why I asked her if getting a new job was a condition to reconciliation, because I'm willing to get another job if that's what it takes (something I've told her).
