Where to next?

[MichelleLT]

We are definitely still here for you.

As for seeing beyond this week, if you can't, then don't.

Start small.

Take it day by day. What are some little things that you would like to do this week (besides get better!)?

[mishka422]

Besides get better? Dang! Can't think of one!!! I've been sick so long I forgot what it feels like to be well.

1)Clean out all my kitchen cabinets and bleach the counters and floor.
2)Read a book.
3)Go to the gym and not feel like I'm dying (goes back to the being sick though. I went once last week and went home and threw up even though I didn't overdo it.)

How are those for small?

I did complete one thing this last weekend. I got my carpet cleaner out (which isn't working right - only the hand tools work, the big carpet cleaning part is broken) and cleaned all the spots on my carpet. 3.5 hours of crawling around on my hands and knees. Didn't get to my bedroom or Marc's but at least the main living area is better.

Did I mention Gabe's dad is coming to visit? He's never been here and it's making me a nervous wreck. I've never like him. I don't hate him, but he and I just have never gotten along.

[kat727]

How about making it a bit more achievable in small bits? Clean out one cupboard. Read one chapter a night of a book. Take a walk around the block. Small chunks and then add one more cabinet if you feel like it, one more chapter or one more block. That way you feel as if you did what you set out to do rather than making it a really big task.

I read a chapter a night and I read alot! I am out more because I am the one usually walking my puppy. for some reason I usually start my focus on the bathroom. Probably because it is a small room and even 15 minutes of effort makes it look great.

kat

[MichelleLT]

They could be smaller. Lots of smaller!

The past is the past. It can't be changed, but it doesn't have to control the present. Deep breath.

Focus on taking care of you and getting better. Do a few things when you feel up to it.

He sure as hell won't notice if the kitchen cupboards have been cleaned, he's a guy! LOL

[whatisis]

He sure as hell won't notice if the kitchen cupboards have been cleaned, he's a guy! LOL

There are such things as kitchen cupboards? Isn't the sink where you keep your dishes? I'm learning so much here!

[mishka422]

Oh, you don't know him. He's not a guy. He's an abusive task master who verbally, emotionally and physically abused Gabe's mom for 30 years and then cheated on her and left her to marry his adultery partner who just divorced him this last year. He makes me very nervous. He's on his best behavior around me because I once witnessed him yelling at Gabe's mom and calling her all sorts of names and I let him have it. Every since then he's been nicey nice with me. Unfortunately, he has a lot of influence on Gabe so I'm concerned with how this visit is going to stir things up.

One cupboard at a time huh? Didn't actually think of that. He's going to be here on the 23FEB. Think I can get all of them done and everything scrubbed before then? Let's see...I'm counting cabinets....26 cabinets, only 5 drawers. Two countertops, my dining area (that is the catch all), and a massive floor the width of the house. Hmmm...ok, doable.

I've always done one chapter a night. I just haven't in a while. Gabe hates it when I read. No idea why since it's not like he's talking to me. It's so weird!

[MichelleLT]

It's funny how bullies often back down when someone finally challenges them.

If that's how Gabe grew up, no wonder he has trouble expressing his emotions to you.

It's funny how some people think being in the same room watching TV is more quality time than you doing something they can't be a part of like reading.

[mishka422]

He's the only person I ever stood up to. I stood up to him in defense of Gabe's mom (and this was when Gabe and I were engaged, not married) but I don't know if I could do the same if it was in defense of myself. Hmmm...interesting thought.

Yes, Gabe has TONS of FOO baggage. He won't deal with it, doesn't think there is anything wrong with his lack of communication, and thinks I just need to get over it. Yeah, that's healthy.

Boy, you've got that right! Watching TV is apparently good enough quality time!

[kat727]

I read in bed before I turn off the light. The kids keep me hopping too much otherwise to get much reading done. Bryan used to read in bed too so it worked out really well. Well until we got divorced but hey it still works for me!!

Sure a cupboard a night is doable and if you feel up to doing one more go ahead. No reason to knock yourself out especially since you ahve been sick.

kat

[kat727]

UGH, &&^^*($#%%$## stupid people and the no edits!!!! I meant have been sick.

kat