Zero expectations. Always a good call! So when they are being "normal" it's always a nice surprise!
Easier said than done on the zero expectations! First of all you're not supposed to believe any of what they say. Okay, that helps when they are saying awful things, but what about when they say something that's positive and hopeful (like the way NH's H was being here)? And then we're not supposed to mind read. So basically, we shouldn't believe what we hear or read anything into what they say or do. Maybe I missed the point all along but when they say detach I guess you really have to go all the way, "as if" you're alone and oh so happy about it (note the angry sarcasm here!).
Does this mean you move them out of your emotions, and then someday when they make it clear they want back in the M, you then and only then let them back into you emotionally?
To really detach its like jumping off a moving roller coaster at 90 mph!
