No you don't, Mish. None of us matter to a significant other in the same exact way. Have you read How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" Men often express caring in different ways than women. A man often thinks life is grand while at the same time his wife is thinking "OMG, this is it?" You don't know what he thinks, you are throwing your own insecure interpretations on whatever he does. Now, that's also understandable when you've been betrayed and he doesn't want to discuss it. How do you get past that? If you want to stay together something has to give. It's not just "life [censored], live with it" That's no way to live. You aren't a mind reader, so stop believing you are! you have to realize that your thoughts are yours and not necessarily correct. It's a start. Catch yourself when you're doing this and say "STOP!" It's not helping you to let these unproven thoughts run away with you.
