M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
What I don't get with him, he asked me where I wanted my cake purchased from and what I wanted for my birthday. I told him where to get the cake and he said no problem. Then I texted him a picture of what I wanted for my birthday and where to get it. It was just a pair of slippers. And he replie back and said consider them mine.
Well, he didn't get me a cake or a birthday present. I just don't get it. Why bother asking if you are not going to follow thru with it.
How do I handle this? Do I say anything or let it go. He was like this during our marriage. And if I say anything, how do I say it?
I would say something, but be calm about it. Your feelings are just as important as his. This is supposed to be a NEW relationship. He needs to do the work, too!
M & H 25 T 9 D 7 S 4 Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me. Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out 2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other. 3-4-12 H moved back in. 3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done
Ditto what Jenna said. He's done nothing to win you back, no changing. He's only granted you his presence and a chance to work on the marriage to win him back. Responding is going to be a tightrope walk here because if you say nothing you're allowing him to cake eat and he'll respect for you, if you say something disagreeable to him he could turn it around and blame you. How would you handle this in the past? How about posting here possible responses before you say something to him?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11