You said that all this trauma happened when your wife was young and it didn't seem like anyone got her help at the time. I have a feeling it's been simmering for awhile and your w didn't have the tools to cope with it in a healthy way.
Yep definetly, which I believe is one of the components of a MLC.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Mlc happens when a change in attitude happens after a big life event trigger.
I believe there have been 2 triggers of her Father dying almost 3 years ago which she has never got over and going back to work full time 1 1/2 years ago instead of being a stay at home Mum.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
Your w's fatalistic attitude seems to be a side belief of her thinking that bad things will always happen in her life.
You have to approach her with that understanding.
Very good point, so are you saying that I have to fight against her beliefs that are stronger than some other peoples and that to prove I've changed will take longer for her to truly believe?
