For what it's worth, my wife is pressing ahead too, but we're without many of the positives you describe (apparently one can do all the paperwork on line now - it doesn't seem like the kind of thing that should be made THAT easy but I digress). But coyote makes a good point - in many cases, the road back together sometimes regrettably runs through this territory.
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12