One of my friends checked on me this morning to see how I was. She is going through her own marriage troubles. Her H cheated has cheated before, but they stayed together. She found out he had been corresponding through email with someone else recently, and she told him she wanted to separate. So they have been separated for a few months.
So she asks me what is going on with H and I. I tell her we haven't talked since the other week about our M, but I've been trying to GAL and just stay busy. I tell her I know H is still talking to the OW. She tells me I need to have a conversation with H, because I can't stay in limbo forever. Which I agree with. And that he's still disrespecting me and I should not let that happen.
But honestly, I just don't think now is the time to have another conversation about our M. And following DB principles, that is correct. But...the A is still going on (to what extent I don't know since she's in another state, but probably still by phone, email, & Twitter). My friend told me I was in denial, which is probably true to some degree.
I need some help here. I told my friend I was okay for now dealing with my situation the way it is. I know if the A doesn't end, there will come a time when I have to issue a "her or me" ultimatum. I'm just not feeling that now is the time for that. I still don't know if he's really moving out in a couple of weeks or not. He hasn't mentioned it all again, which I know doesn't mean it's not going to happen. But I don't want to push him further away if there's any chance he's thinking about staying.
