feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

[mishka422]

It does seem that your son is processing things a little more clearly. If that is what he is getting from Alateen then fabulous! The more he expresses himself to his dad the better. Keeping it bottled up and taking it out on you is not an alternative.

I filed because he forced my hand and I didnt want a divorce, but now I just want it over with. It has been a very painfull thing for me to come to grips with and I just want my life back. What I dont understand is this is what he wanted!!..why is he making it so difficult and fighting it every step of the way when he wants it so bad??!!...

Ahhh....that is the $10,000 question isn't it? I had the same problem. Why is he making it so hard? Well, I can only tell you what my xh told me long after the fact. He said that he could only think of how everything I was doing was affecting him. It didn't matter to him how much pain his actions were causing and he didn't want to be bothered with 'doing more work'. He figured that leaving me hanging out to dry wasn't so bad, it was the status quo. He was so stressed about his own sitch that no one else mattered.

Just a perspective from the other side....as warped as it may be.

All that means is, it doesn't matter what he is doing or why, it only matters what you do for YOU and your kids. THE END!