Good morning, JB! I think in a former thread you and I touched on the subject of your rock star ability to GAL and the possibility that it makes your wife feel stressed and/or frustrated. I also believe you have mentioned that your wife has some self esteem issues. The thing is, you are your very best JB when you GAL, and being your best is a large part of what DB is about. You choose healthy (in mind, body and spirit) ways to GAL, so there is nothing wrong with that! Perhaps if your wife decides to give your marriage another shot, the two of you can find ways to GAL together (that she feels comfortable with and confident about) as well as continue to GAL on your own at times (does that make sense?).
With regard to your son texting your wife...I know how bothersome this can be. When my husband and I were separated, I sometimes felt irritated when he'd text the kids at a time that he knew we were super busy or spending quality time together. And too, sometimes I just resented that he was contacting them during "my" time. However...I had to think about what was best for the kids, and as long as their texting with him didn't interfere with something of importance (dinner, homework time, reading/snuggling time before bed, etc), then I needed to allow them to chat with their dad. If it was during a busy time, I'd just tell them to let him know they would be back in contact when things slowed down, and that was never a problem.
