Yep, glad it's over. I honestly think as long as you are holding on to hope to reunite with your ex you shouldn't date. Secondly, the people I know that did save their marriages were done with their spouse. They weren't holding out hope, they had really moved on. Some had bought homes out of state and had taken jobs away from their spouses. I know not feasible for you but you should get the idea. You aren't done and until you are, you remain stuck.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory