The PA 'logic' is I was denied what I wanted or needed as a child so I am determined not to give you what you want or need.
Empathy, intimacy, sex money, contact, or no contact, divorce reconciliation, doesn't matter it is important to deny you what you want.
Why does doing a 180 sometimes work. It disrupts the PA behavior.
If he is delaying thinking it will make you mad, and you can wait, tell him no hurry no big deal whenever it comes is fine. Watch the fear and confusion on his face! Of course he will have to come up with something else to p!ss you off as he cannot lose.
