Not sure if you still don't/cant' see this but, YOU can speed up the process.
In fact, only you can.
I don't have an opinion on you dating, or what a 25 y/o offers you beyond an ego boost. (I say that with sincerity b/c I have 5 brothers and 2 divorced...they dated younger women.
One brother at age 43 married a woman who's 34...and they're happy, etc.
My oldest brother dated a 24 y/o when he was 47, and he was pretty out of shape. So he looked like a sugar daddy.
He made sure everyone knew her age, and seemed to want some sort of response from us when he'd discuss her, but all I knew about her was that she was 24 & a college grad...honestly that's about all the info he put out about her. I never knew what to say to that. Due to the physical appearance (b/c I admit I think it's different for Brad Pitt and Bruce Willis types) my brother's sitch just looked sad to us. And a few weeks later, it was over and I think he was chagrined. He Never spoke of her again.
The point I'm making here may have nothing to do with your sitch. But if my brother thought that I or my sisters or other women were "impressed", by her age vis a vis his, we weren't. I felt sad for him truly.
Tad, if you still think someone else can make you happy, then you are still giving all your power away.
If you still think you can't be happy without a woman like your ex w, you have a much harder LONGER road ahead of you than you'd haveneeded if you'd simply DETACH and GAL for real.
If you think OW is a tactic to get your w back, you're giving all your power away (and it's more likely to backfire, give your EX w another batchit seizure, and risks hurting OW...-
but if YOU and OW CAN handle it and all is honest, fine.
I get the nagging feeling you are still maneuvering to get your batchit w back. Still trying to control the outcome...asking about whether anyone has seen someone divorce and later remarry...
yes Tad, as I"ve told you I have 2 family members do that. Years after they divorced they reconciled. But none of those 4 people did the same things your w does, fwiw...
and it took growth and personal work on all their parts NEVER with the goal or expectation of reconciling but of moving forward.
Their kids bonded them, and in time their friendships grew back into m's.
But Tad think about this---do you Ever think maybe it's Not your w you miss or mourn the loss of, but just the idea that you lost?
I don't mean to offend you with that OR to speak for others,
but I seriously doubt anyone here thinks she's good for you
and she's been such bad news for so long,
it's pretty hard to see why you'd still be pining. Yet here you are.
So I wonder if your ego is just so bruised & self esteem so low, that you confuse that wound with loving/needing HER...b/c she's not a loving woman.
Based on reality now, what's to miss?
Just food for thought and one more reminder--
YOU can speed this process up Tad.
Just do it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
