Tad's Overdue Update

[tadpole1025]

Thank you 25 and Snodderly.

But the idea of you taking your wife back stuns me.

You're right 25. I can't take her back the way that she is now. No way. But.......I do hope that someday she will get through this and maybe just maybe return to who she was. The longer time goes though, I lose a little more hope. Does anyone know of any marriages that were restored after the divorce?

The contempt with which she speaks to you, only to be followed by baking cookies, speaks to her inability to apologize like an adult. Asking her why she'd bake things for someone she referred to the way she did you is just demeaning. ( You repeated her slurs--please don't ever do that again unless you are in court suing someone for it).

Got it. I guess I was just so confused by it all. I still don't really understand her reason behind it.

I don't know why she'd know you are dating, let alone the woman's age.

She knows because S25 (who I am very upset with right now) told her all about it. Why? I don't know. Not sure if she was asking questions or if he volunteered the info.

Remember that thing called Detachment?

It's still your challenge.

Very true. I'm working on it. Although I am getting better, it is still tough sometimes.

As she has become now, it's a lot better that she's gone.

I'm seeing that more everyday. There are still times when I would like to call her until I ask myself "why?" It would just hurt me anyways.

Yes, she's miserable. If she weren't, she wouldn't be consumed w/what you are doing, calling you, making comments to your children and the one thing that says it all...she knows about your dating, etc. If she were happy w/her life, she would go on w/her life and act like a mature adult and at least meet you half way in co-parenting and not be making such comments to your children.

Thanks Snodderly. We do not talk anymore though. If she wants to tell me something or ask something, she usually uses S17 as the messenger. (Something she has accused me of in the past.) As for knowing about my dating, as stated above, she knows because S25 told her. I don't know why.

Everyone on this board has been amazing. I appreciate all of you. I do know that I did seem pretty pathetic at times (and probably still do), but I am getting better. I would have never dreamed that it would take me this long.....and....I've still got a lot of work to do.

Thanks again.

Tad