Thanks KD, i have re read what i wrote a few times. your right, i have to let go and stop worrying about her and what i can do for her.
We did talk Sunday after dinner at my parents. She is seeing a IC as a part of her sentance so hopefully this will help her. She asked me what the reason was for me to stop driving her to and from the house for visits etc. I told her it was just to much for me at this point in my life. she tried for more and asked me if seeing her was to painful on me. That was a harder question to answer. i responded, i am fine seeing you, i just dont think all the family interaction is sending the right message to the children and it is also keeping us very connected and this causes confusion for our children.
I felt good about that response. I didnt lie but i kept alot of my emotions in check.
kml, that type of setting just isnt for me. I have tried a similar group before and i was uncomfortable. I will find a copy of the book and read it.
I kept my boundariies in place so far this week. No contact other than on sunday. Unfortunately, that also means she hasnt called the kids and she missed her visit today.
