Never thought I'd be here........part 8

[25yearsmlc]

So here is a simple one for the experts (and all others) to chew on. Got a text from W tonight saying "I feel sorry for putting our family through this ordeal ". Pretty much right out of the blue. Don't know how to read or take it, really. Maybe I shouldn't have responded, but


but you did anyhow...okay well what's done is done.

The good news is that I think it's clearly not a negative,

but it could mean she's sorry she's ending the family, or she's sorry she is not feeling good about you and the future of the m...

but before now, she had not expressed regret but rather, blame.

So even if she's still thinking it's done/over, it's progress toward each other.

And there's also the possibility she regrets THE CHOICE itself and may be rethinking it...

and seeing the wreckage...which she regrets...

which is even more positive.

Instead of reassuring her that you and son will be just fine if she's gone or divorced,

you could stress that you get that she felt it was needed,

BUT THAT IT HAS BEEN A CATALYST FOR POSITIVE CHANGE IN YOU...

instead of the vague "everything happens for a reason"...

which could mean you will be with OW or have more kids, or whatever...etc
which is like saying "it's all good no matter what", stuff.


Well, like I said, it's done.

You MAY want to toss thoughts out here first

given how delicate things are between you two

I said "Don't. We are all going to be OK. There is a purpose behind everything. Including this."

Thoughts? Again - I am reluctant to read into ANYTHING right now. We have MC session #2 tomorrow. Maybe she has been thinking about things??? IDK.

Crimson

Crimson,

of course she's been thinking about things. She is at a cross roads.

The question for you is how will YOU handle things and what do YOU want?

And how are you going to make darn sure you don't end up in the same sitch 2 years or 4 years from now?

Answer me that...


and then be able to answer HER that...