I just learnt today that W has not been paying for D's medical bills as per our verbal agreement (I cover insurances for the both of them). So now they have been to a collection agency and they have the debt in MY name only. I paid $2000 in past medical bills to them because of this stuff and told the agency to bill the rest to her. The account was in her name to begin with!
It looks like I am going to have to get a SA, but I don't know how I am going to afford it with finding newer bills every month! I will find a way though.
My mantra has been that I will not pay for anything that I don't want or need, but it looks like I need a SA to protect myself. I am pretty sure that W will use that to steamroll it into a full D, but that is out of my control.
As for myself I have had very little contact with W for the past 2 weeks. The schedule regarding our D has been set and we are sticking to it. W has not tried to contact me in the last week. Half of me is concerned but the other half says the he&^ with her.
I have been feeling little stress until now when the bill came. I have been going out with friends and meeting new people. I have been feeling great and have learned a ton about myself in the past month.
I am continuing to work on my listening skills with everyone else around me. I realized that being the social butterfly and life of the party that I am, that this is part of my personality, but now that I am aware of it, I am hopeful to make a conscious effort to make listening a priority and wear off the edges of the non-attractive parts of the personality. This is for me and me alone!
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12
