I'm still very new to this site and I have barely begun to start detaching and DBing but, I want to commend you on laying down the house rules. Now he'll no longer be able to just sneak in during the middle of the night! It's important for him to realize that you're not gonna be a pushover and that urging you to decide on dates is not gonna make you slide backwards and lose any of the progress you have made in yourself. No matter how much he thinks it's just a show!