Thanks Crimson - I agree, and while my past may indicate otherwise, this isn't trying to get revenge (...at least consciously), but more to shake things up as the current trajectory is D.
There is a person in a position of power where my W works (he is a Director and she is an analyst basically) who was texting her 1000 times per month while we were together for over a year until I figured it out. I feel that I am entitled to call him out in a forceful, non-threatening phone call that I know what he has been doing, I have records of it and I'm sure that he would not people at work to know.
Again just trying to change the dynamic as I'm basically being played like a fool and she's already filed so what is there to lose?
I do realize that OM did not make a vow or commitment to me though, so as you suggested, I will bring it up with W and tell her that while I own my contributions to this, I believe that this is something that should be addressed as well. I will do it in a non-angry and non-judgmental fashion.
I realize that OM is a symptom, not the problem...but the symptom certain exacerbated the problem.
also, as a side note, best of luck with your sitch. I am incredibly happy that you seem to be on a better path than most on this board.
