It started off with a phone interaction with my W. My S had forgotten some things at her place. He made arrangements independently with her for her to bring them over to the house. He was unaware of my plans for the evening. I ended up calling my W. It was a very pleasant interaction on the phone. I gave her a couple of options to get S's things back including meeting us for dinner. She was too far away for us to meet for dinner. She seemed disappointed she was going be unable to catch up with us. She also seemed to be a little disappointed she wasn't going with us, too. Are these small signs the ship is turning, so to speak? Or is it nothing? For now, I am going to treat as if it's nothing for my own sanity. Besides, any other sign I've seen would NOT tell me anything is turning around. She just moved to a new apartment a couple of weeks ago and she's working on getting settled into it.
Friday night I just visited with some friends. My S is good friends with their S, so a good time was had by all.
Saturday, I slept late like a teenager. My S and I visited my Mom. We went out to a nice Italian dinner for my birthday.
Yesterday was extremely busy. I started the day with a 4.5 mile hike. Went to church - another good service and I'm working on deepening my friendships there. I also signed up for a running club they're starting there - a new GAL activity of sorts. Or at least I get to take something I'm already doing and do it along with other people now. I took my S out, or I should say I took myself out and my S came along for a nice lunch of Cajun cuisine. We ran about 6 errands after that.
It was pretty cold this morning so I went for a 3 mile run in 29 degree weather. I'm back at work today to rest up.
Hey, Justin Bieber/JB! Thanks for checking on me! I recently changed my screen name after directing a friend in marital crisis to this site...wanted to keep up my anonymity as best I can.
Things continue to go well at home and with the family; thank you for asking. We've hit a couple of stumbling blocks along the way, which is to be expected, but DB really taught me how to step back and allow things to cool down rather than pursue when the going gets tough. Along with keeping a certain level of detachment (25 has touched on this in her own sitch), this allows me to get back on the straight and narrow MUCH quicker and easier. So for the most part, there isn't much to report on my sitch. No news is good news!
I do lurk often and always check up on you. I always feel like I need a nap after reading your posts...if you could bottle your energy/GAL, you'd be a gazillionaire!
Sorry for the mini-hijack; just thought it would be easier to respond on your thread. Hang in there, and know that I continue to think of your situation and pray for you and your family often.
ncl/lc4 - thanks for checking in on me. Thanks for the update, too. I'm so glad things are going well. No worries with the mini-hijack.
Originally Posted By: ncl
if you could bottle your energy/GAL, you'd be a gazillionaire!
Thanks for that! TBH, I sometimes wonder if my energy level has caused problems in my M. My W does not have near the energy level. Her mind has a lot of energy, but her body can't get up with it. I think it causes her a lot of frustration and stress. It's always been kind of difficult for me to not be doing something productive or entertaining, and quite frankly, I think that may have frustrated her to some extent.
Originally Posted By: ncl
Hang in there, and know that I continue to think of your situation and pray for you and your family often.
Thanks for that! Thanks for brightening my day today.
I had my S last night. He had Cub Scouts last night so we had to get dinner done and get out the door.
Last night we hung out for a bit before bedtime. My S was texting with my W. I don't know why specifically, but that irritates me. They were making plans to go out of town for the weekend at the end of March. I WILL have to address this. I am just looking for the best time or the most productive time to do so.
It was extremely warm for this time of year this morning. It was a balmy 49 degrees and it was dry. I rode for 8.6 mi. this morning. Usually, I'm not able to ride at all in January. This year I was able to ride over 120 miles.
I made today lunch at school day. Smuggled in Chipotle for lunch again and hung out with my fifth grade friends.
I may or may not see my W tonight. I have my Relationships (Ladies' ) group at church tonight. She will have my S tonight.
Happy belated birthday JB. Hope it was a great one.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Good morning, JB! I think in a former thread you and I touched on the subject of your rock star ability to GAL and the possibility that it makes your wife feel stressed and/or frustrated. I also believe you have mentioned that your wife has some self esteem issues. The thing is, you are your very best JB when you GAL, and being your best is a large part of what DB is about. You choose healthy (in mind, body and spirit) ways to GAL, so there is nothing wrong with that! Perhaps if your wife decides to give your marriage another shot, the two of you can find ways to GAL together (that she feels comfortable with and confident about) as well as continue to GAL on your own at times (does that make sense?).
With regard to your son texting your wife...I know how bothersome this can be. When my husband and I were separated, I sometimes felt irritated when he'd text the kids at a time that he knew we were super busy or spending quality time together. And too, sometimes I just resented that he was contacting them during "my" time. However...I had to think about what was best for the kids, and as long as their texting with him didn't interfere with something of importance (dinner, homework time, reading/snuggling time before bed, etc), then I needed to allow them to chat with their dad. If it was during a busy time, I'd just tell them to let him know they would be back in contact when things slowed down, and that was never a problem.
She also seemed to be a little disappointed she wasn't going with us, too. 
I also signed up for a running club they're starting there - a new GAL activity of sorts. Or at least I get to take something I'm already doing and do it along with other people now. I took my S out, or I should say I took myself out and my S came along for a nice lunch of Cajun cuisine. We ran about 6 errands after that. 
Thanks for checking on me! I recently changed my screen name after directing a friend in marital crisis to this site...wanted to keep up my anonymity as best I can. 
