Too Little, Too Late...part 5

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Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5 mr mr #2217585 01/31/12 10:09 PM
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OP purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	WELL, this day went to he!! in a handbasket quick! H came by after work to see the boys. He had a couple of questions about the latest draft of our papers. I told him that I was ok to talk about a few of his issues, but other ones I would need some time to gather my thoughts. Without writing the entire conversation, here's the highlights: * H has decided that he DOESN'T want to stay 'separated forever' as we agreed on our last conversation a few days ago. He said he can't explain it, but that it would feel like our M was always hanging over him. (flash to my heart breaking again, and trying not to cry). He apologized for doing this to me. * because of this ^^^^ revelation, we now have to agree on a specific date that our papers go into effect... this led to some not so fun discussions about how he can prove [his idea] date, how i think [my idea] date is more accurate... which led to the issue of when he is eligible to file for the official D (1 year after L.sep.) He even went as far to tell me that he's researched HOW to file for D even if he's overseas. (my thoughts are racing about how motivated he is to do this!!) * H says that we can drag this out based on my medical needs- since we still don't know what my long-term needs are.... gee, thanks- you're such a nice guy. * H said some statement about "it needs to be completely done, not half way." So that led me into telling him that he needs to be completely moved out, no half way. I explained that he can't just stop by whenever he wants to. I told him that on his days off, he is allowed to see the kids, but he has to ask/notify me of his intentions, and I reserve the right to say no. I told him: "You have made it clear that this isn't your home anymore, that you don't want this life, so you have to consider yourself a guest and act accordingly." H said: "I don't have a problem with that. I should have been asking our permission all along." {HE DOESN"T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT?!?!?!? WOW, he really has no emotional connection to me, this house or this life anymore!!!} I also told him that I realize this can't go into effect until I get back from Florida, since he will be living here for 2 weeks while I'm gone. I feel like sh!t right now. I feel like there is NO HOPE for ever turning this around.... well, gotta go take care of the kids. I'm sure I'll be back with some more whining/crying.... sorry that this board is my only place to safely vent out all my fears, sadness and frustrations. Thanks for listening (reading). M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

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Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 04:26 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 02:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 04:38 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	01/29/12 04:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 06:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/29/12 06:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 08:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 09:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	01/29/12 10:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 03:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/30/12 04:29 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Grmpy_Mnky	01/30/12 04:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 04:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kolja	01/30/12 05:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	01/30/12 05:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 09:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	01/30/12 09:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 09:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/30/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	01/30/12 10:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	01/31/12 03:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 03:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	01/31/12 03:58 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	01/31/12 12:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	PERSEVERANCE	01/31/12 04:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 08:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 09:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	mr mr	01/31/12 09:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/31/12 09:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kml	01/31/12 09:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/31/12 09:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	mr mr	01/31/12 09:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 10:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/31/12 10:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/31/12 10:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 11:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/01/12 12:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/01/12 12:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/01/12 12:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/01/12 01:41 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/01/12 02:14 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/01/12 03:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/01/12 04:52 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/01/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 01:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/02/12 01:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	02/02/12 02:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 03:34 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	02/02/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/02/12 07:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/02/12 08:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	WenikiTiki	02/02/12 12:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/02/12 12:41 PM
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Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/02/12 02:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/02/12 05:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/02/12 05:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	31nheartbroken	02/03/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/03/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 03:08 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/03/12 03:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	2thepoint	02/03/12 05:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/03/12 06:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/03/12 12:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/03/12 05:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	WenikiTiki	02/03/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	2thepoint	02/03/12 05:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	rickb89	02/03/12 07:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/03/12 09:43 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 12:09 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/04/12 12:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/04/12 12:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/04/12 12:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/04/12 12:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	02/04/12 12:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/04/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/04/12 02:08 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 02:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/04/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	rickb89	02/04/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 11:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/05/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/05/12 05:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/05/12 07:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/05/12 06:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kolja	02/05/12 07:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/05/12 08:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/05/12 08:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/07/12 03:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/07/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/04/12 12:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	31nheartbroken	02/01/12 01:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/31/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	01/29/12 05:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 06:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 01:13 PM

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