Oh yes, the forever more " we have no sex life" song and dance.
Been there and done that. Yes that is his choice and his doing. You have every right to feel hurt, I mean it's only natural. For him to come right out and tell you he's more excited by her than he was with you is CRUEL and MEAN. The re writing of history is cruel and mean too. Mine did that as well.
We had sex 2 -3 times a week normally. Our sex life was always good. Of course life got real and things did slow down. Then he started backing off and then totally rejecting me. We went a year and a half with no sex. Started up again. Then 4 months. Started again. Then he left. Then after he left..."sex-ting"! Reminiscing about our fun " adventures". Inviting me over to his place for one last " hoorah". We had one last hoorah..me thinking we were connecting. Nope...he was drunk, horny, and very lonely and he was sorry but that didn't change things between us. One month later he's nailing OW.
Push- pull. Sounds like that's what your H is doing. Reading 4myfamily's posts about PA behavior is really helping me understand this circle of insanity with stbx.
I have no idea when a couple feels theire ready for REtrouville. I know it's best to have both people be willing to go.
