Originally Posted By: Oneeleven

Its a super interesting point but it can be a sword that cuts both ways.
Agreed! If you make changes to fit into their lives, you run the risk of loosing yourself too.

I liked the changes and I felt like focusing on some of these new activities made me a more well-rounded person.
I think it's a GOOD part of a R when we can learn new things from our partner- we just have to decide if *we* want to be an observer or a participant... sadly, I always was the observer- and that wasn't good enough for him.

I'm not going to lose myself completely to fit your lifestyle, but I will *adjust* so that we can mesh together. Besides, I told him... don't you like the fact that I look pretty and that I take the time to care what I look like for not only myself but you every day?
You could see the wheels churn in his head and he completely understood.
I fell victim to *NOT* keeping myself in the M.... I let myself go, which was opposite of who I was when we met. I'm starting to see that girl again since I started DBing.... and I still like her and think she has a lot to offer- now if only I could get H to notice her again!!

Sorry, my point doesn't have all that much to do with yours, I just felt like sharing smile
Never apologize for sharing!!


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12