Hey Rick, I can so relate to your checklist, I also feel great about my progress and my W also is on the road....however she is facing the other direction. I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that she may not turn around until it is.to late. She told me once about 10 years ago that she could see our future, she would lose her appreciation of me and push till the point that when she realized what she was doing and came back I would say no.....I hope she isn't right.
Michael - with five kids I imagine the stress must be enormous. I've heard that WAW's often have had this brewing in them for years before the bombs away. If your W was telling you this prophecy ten years ago then this is probably the case.
Is there any hope of stopping the D train for you? Is she getting any professional help?