DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

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25 asked me what will I do if she never makes it back, or doesn't want to make it back. Its a lot to dwell on.

Can I live a M that's at a 50/50 point for ever? Is my realizing that I want passion and a full relationship selfish at this point? I dont have answers at this point. I think its so scary because of the realization of control, maybe. I can control whether or not I continue to live mostly alone like this. I cannot control where my W goes with this or what she figures out for herself. Because I know that I detach, and I am fulfilled with who I am and my life's activities. I know I'm responsible for my happiness.

RB89 - It is a very tough question. You are living in a marriage as it was never intended to be. IMO, in that situation, there can never fully be fulfillment as long as it stays that way. That doesn't mean you can't have a fulfilling life. It just may be different from what you expected.

My W is similar in that she seems to have no interest in leaving, but there is no interest in working on our M either. She sleeps in a different room and organizes her life in a way that my involvement is limited.

I hope there are positive changes for you, your W and your M that can bee seen and last. And you're right, you are responsible for your happiness. I hope those words resonate in your heart as well as your head! Its a conscious effort and your doing very well with it!