labug, my general impression was very good. Not at all a cult like experience or guru of any type. I never felt icky in any way, and I am an extremely reserved person. I'm really sorry to hear that you had that experience with the event you attended. You took your chances and it doesn't sound good.
You are right, it is definitely going to take some time to process. I am ok with that, actually.
I'm sorry that you and H are in a similar sitch, sometimes the not knowing is difficult. H admits to not wanting to talk and wanting to shove everything under the rug. I guess admitting it is a good thing.
