Ok, here's a quick update. It's a whirlwind at the moment. We have another counseling session in a couple of days. I'm working on the courting/dating, bought her flowers, sending more texts, looking into her eyes when I'm talking, reading 5LOL and DR. At worst I come out of this understanding how women should be treated and elevated more than I had ever realized and also learning a ton about my own shortcomings. We're talking a lot, both still uncertain but I'm taking ACT AS IF approach and it seems to be working. Still working through DR, there's some great stuff in there, my only barrier is time, it can't all happen at once. Making some small change as well, open the door for her, always put the toilet seat down, try and always be affirmative, tidying the place up a lot more than I used to. Hopefully this stuff is making a difference.
We got out of town for a couple of days, it was really nice. We talked quite a bit and she suggested we go look for a book on affair recovery, which we did and have started reading together. Very insightful into each others perspective. There's been a couple of difficult moments, a few words of hurt have come out of both of us but we've apologised and made up. I'm really trying not to make any negative comments, a couple have slipped out though and I instantly regretted it.
We're meeting up for coffee a lot more, now I want to see her laugh more and I think ACT AS IF is the key here.
