Too Little, Too Late...part 5

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Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5 BFloat #2217387 01/31/12 03:51 AM
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OP purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	I love all my friends on here You know how to make a girl feel good! I was thinking about something a spiritual advisor told me once (and maybe I've said this on here a LONG time ago). The idea is this: When you meet some one and start to fall in love, you are presenting a certain version of you. You should make sure that that version is authentic and genuine. Because when you choose to get married, if you drastically change the person that they fell in love with, the other spouse will feel as if they've been tricked. Now this is not saying that people shouldn't grow and change based on mutual/individual experiences, but the core person should be the same. And it can even be as simple as things that you always do for each other, for example: If you (as a woman) always wore makeup or dressed nice every time you went out with your spouse during dating.... than you should continue to do those things after marriage. Ok, I'm not saying this because I agree with it entirely, but I do understand the essence of it. I've realized that I changed who I was almost the instant that he put the ring on my finger. I think in my mind I told myself: "Hey, I got him. I don't have to impress anymore" and I became lazy in my appearance and attitude towards him. Boy, do I regret that. (and maybe I'm not the only one here who fell victim to 'marriage comfort') But I've come to this ^^^^ realization after my DB efforts over the past 2 months. I really LIKE doing my hair and makeup, and putting on nice clothes daily. I have noticed that I carry myself better AND I have a better attitude... it might seem superficial that a little makeup could cause such a dramatic turn around- oh-well. I like the way H looks at me now (even when he doesn't think I see it)... I feel like my DB efforts are not changing me, only bringing back the woman that has been hiding behind baggy shirts and low self-esteem...lightbulb moment!.... the woman he fell in love with!!! Why couldn't I have figured this out 3 years ago, when it would have kept my M together. M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

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Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 04:26 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 02:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 04:38 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	01/29/12 04:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 06:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/29/12 06:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/29/12 08:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 09:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	01/29/12 10:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 03:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/30/12 04:29 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Grmpy_Mnky	01/30/12 04:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 04:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kolja	01/30/12 05:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	01/30/12 05:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 09:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	01/30/12 09:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/30/12 09:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/30/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	01/30/12 10:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	01/31/12 03:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 03:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	01/31/12 03:58 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	01/31/12 12:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	PERSEVERANCE	01/31/12 04:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 08:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 09:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	mr mr	01/31/12 09:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/31/12 09:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kml	01/31/12 09:20 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	01/31/12 09:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	mr mr	01/31/12 09:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 10:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/31/12 10:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	01/31/12 10:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/31/12 11:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/01/12 12:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/01/12 12:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/01/12 12:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/01/12 01:41 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/01/12 02:14 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/01/12 03:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/01/12 04:52 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/01/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 01:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/02/12 01:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	02/02/12 02:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 03:34 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	02/02/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/02/12 07:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/02/12 08:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	WenikiTiki	02/02/12 12:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/02/12 12:41 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 02:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/02/12 02:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/02/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/02/12 05:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/02/12 05:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	31nheartbroken	02/03/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/03/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 03:08 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/03/12 03:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	2thepoint	02/03/12 05:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/03/12 06:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/03/12 12:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/03/12 04:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/03/12 05:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	WenikiTiki	02/03/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	2thepoint	02/03/12 05:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	rickb89	02/03/12 07:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/03/12 09:43 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 12:09 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	ces67	02/04/12 12:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/04/12 12:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/04/12 12:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Oneeleven	02/04/12 12:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	keep_going	02/04/12 12:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/04/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	02/04/12 02:08 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 02:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/04/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	rickb89	02/04/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/04/12 11:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/05/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/05/12 05:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BFloat	02/05/12 07:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	02/05/12 06:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	kolja	02/05/12 07:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	BklynMom	02/05/12 08:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	Jenna333	02/05/12 08:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	nhmom	02/07/12 03:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	labug	02/07/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	NLW	02/04/12 12:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	31nheartbroken	02/01/12 01:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	RoRoinMD	01/31/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	sayitaintso	01/29/12 05:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	25yearsmlc	01/29/12 06:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late...part 5	purgatory	01/29/12 01:13 PM

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