Still alone, but no longer confused...

[purgatory]

So sorry that your son has to suffer an extra level of disappointment through this stich.

I'm with Rick on this- that H needs to figure his sh!t out quickly before S4 develops some of his own 'issues' from his childhood experiences... like you said, sounds like H might have some demons from his past (maybe childhood) that haven't been addressed. It's too bad that you can't suggest therapy for H, but maybe you can get some for S4... I have S6 talking to someone 2x a month- just to make sure that I'm not missing something that needs to be addressed. My son tells me that they spend most of the time building legos and coloring- so it's obviously not traumatic for him.

I was lucky, my H admitted that his dad was detached and only involved when discipline was needed... but he promised himself that he would use those experiences as a 'non-example' of being a dad. And because of that, my boys have the most amazing dad.

I hope you continue to enjoy the time with your son tonight!! It would be so wonderful if we could actually get together, for us and the kids