That friends thing.... as I read I also remember back when my H was still writhing with indecision. He was fully into his EA, feeling "in love", OW was obviously feeling the same.
It was this time we had a lot of talk about separation and D. I told him that no way was I going to be friends with him, and it was really more for my own protection, as I did not want to be hurt everytime is saw him.
I also said that it was all or none - we either had a D, with all the consequences, and he knew I would be fighting...
I knew I was risking a lot, but I felt that I could not be patient and wait. H was asking me what if he decided he couldn't live without me... and thats when I knew that he wasn't really leaving.
Sometimes, it takes a boundary to force a decision.
Although it can only come when the time is right. For a time, I thought I did it too early.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go