I lack the capability to be subtle so please consider this a 1x2 as opposed do a 2x4.
For more than a year we have been telling you, have sex with your wife and the majority of your problems will resolve themselves. This latest example was your wife being crushed because you won't have sex with her. All her behavior is her acting out because she feels unwanted. You won't take care of business and it's led to her seeking others to take care of business for you. You've researched around it, danced around it, now apparently are going to pray around it. You've avoided dealing head on with the main issue for the 4 years (or more) that I've been with you.
Woman and sex, sell corvettes, hair plugs, start wars, inspire poetry. Haven't you seen the TV commercial? It's the most powerful force on earth. When a guy won't make love to a woman, she comes absolutely undone. It's like Superman jumping off a roof only to learn his powers have abandoned him. It hurts.
No one is pulling harder for you than me, I promise. Really, though, tell us, that deep down you don't know you are avoiding the real issue at hand.
If you want to read a book. Have you read Passionate Marriage. I think that might really appeal to your analytical side and fairly directly address your situation.
You were SO close. With one decisive, manly act, you could have put your marriage back on track. Not solved everything. but I bet made 2 years dancing lessons worth of progress in 30 minutes.
I am going to be uber blunt here now. If you find yourself in a similar situation, why not give her oral sex? Honey, I'm not quite ready for intercourse yet but let me take care of you...or better yet just do it. At least she won't be wondering what's wrong with her. I could use some help, could sound to her like, "Your not appealing enough for me to get it up."
As always, good luck
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
