Informally separated from WAW, but DBing my best

[AlwaysTrying]

I believe in you, labug. You're a great person.

Yay Team! Thanks, AT.

All I'm going to say about your latest post is DETACH, DETACH, DETACH. Live your life, be with your kids when you can but let her go.

The sooner, the better.

I'm centering back on this now. I haven't done well in the last 24 hours and I hope it hasn't done too much damage.

I don't have trouble detaching from her. Well, not most of the time. But sometimes I get a little crazy about the kids.

I start thinking, "Stop being so selfish and destroying our family!" I don't need her back, but my kids do.

And I get frustrated with what I see as cake eating. I let her have the house and primary with the kids because she can't figure out how to heal when I'm in the house. She's living a fantasy life of happy separation. She still doesn't know what it's like to have the kids sleeping on the other side of town.


I just read tenbusrider's thread. My wife lost her gallblader after our D3, and she's had these wild irrational mood swings that everyone but her can see for years. It's very important to her that she not be perceived as the crazy one, but I'm pretty sure the reason she's so sensitive about it is that she knows I'm not making it up. It was so hard to talk to her about it before she went WAW.

I plan on asking her if she's had her thyroid checked out.

I feel like I don't sound like a DBer today. I'm doing it wrong. I guess I need to meditate on it.